Protectors

Published on 4 August 2025 at 15:59

Men like to think of themselves as protectors. They are there to protect the female of the species from harm as part of their evolutionary make up. Saving women, once referred to as the weaker sex from the likes of woolly mammoths and other men. Even when they fully believe in equality, it is still very likely they will see themselves as the protector, even though it might just be from that spider in bathroom. I spoke to a man who referred to himself as a "protector" and that being the reason he couldn't date a rape survivor, or at least a vocal rape survivor like myself.

 

Men seem to get incredibly uncomfortable with my story. They do not want to hear about it. I am incredibly open about it because someone has to normalize the conversation at some point. With out the conversation, we cannot possibly move forward with the enforcement of the laws that we have now regarding rape. That is the reason I share the video as well. I want to open people's eyes and ears, like you might think you know what it's like but here it is in reality raw and unedited.

 

I talked to one reporter at one point who told me that they don't identify the victim and I said I wanted to be identified. I am not ashamed or embarrassed by the rape. I am a little embarrassed by the circumstances of me being in the room that night and dating him after the fact while he continued to rape me. But I am not embarrassed to be vocal about it and share my story.

 

The rape is part of the fabric of my very being at this point. This blog, my fight, my advocacy it is part of me now. Sometimes it is all of me. The old me disappeared with that video, I no longer exist. I am this now, for better or for worse. At this point I still think it is for worse, but this is what I am. This is who I am. This is the sarcastic loudmouth after trial by fire and surviving something I frankly didn't want to survive. 

 

Rape makes people uncomfortable. Your discomfort is what I am seeking. Seriously. Comfortable people don't take action to change.  If I want you to do something about it, I have to make you uncomfortable instead of complacent to the way things are. I am so sick of hearing "I am sorry that happened to you. I know, what the fuck are supposed to say? "Man, that sucks" doesn't feel appropriate to say to someone who has just shared that seemingly intimate information with you. But, damn, I am sick of hearing it. And I get that people, such as my gentleman caller this weekend, don't know what the hell to do with that information.

 

Well first things first, might I recommend not tell the rape victim it is too much for you to handle. This guy this weekend, he said it was too much to handle because he is a protector. That my friends is what I like to refer to as pure unadulterated bullshit. You don’t get to call yourself a protector if you’re protecting your own comfort while women like me are left to clean up the blood. That’s not protection. That’s cowardice with a chivalry sticker slapped on it. It is too much for him to handle emotionally. It's like the men (it is always a man) who can't watch or hear the video. It is too much for them to handle. They are disturbed by it. Suggestion, if it is too much for you to handle think about the person it happened to.

 

Think about the fact I have watched that video a thousand times and I have to occasionally rewatch it for legal filings to make sure I have something correct. Hopefully I don't have to do more of that any time soon, but I will have to watch it with the jury in the civil case.

 

Now, think about the fact that he wasn't charged and what a miscarriage of justice that is. What can you do about it though?

 

Use you voice.

 

Advocate.

 

Share what I am saying and have other advocate as well.

 

Send an email to the Attorney General's office at  aginquiries@ag.nv.gov telling them as a voter you are disgusted that our elected Attorney General won't even say why he declined charges. You can also vote. None of the AG candidates thus far have been willing to say anything to me. Aaron Ford is running for Governor. Call him and those supporting his candidacy, which is every elected democrat, and tell them this is unacceptable and they need to find a new candidate. Here is the email for NV Dems admin@nvdems.com

 

And I am going to say this to those who will write me off as some partisan hack: Aaron Ford could be running as a Whig and I would still be doing this. It isn't the party line, it's this one subject. I am a foaming at the mouth radical liberal socialist. Always have been. I wish I could support him because I see what is happening in the country, however, this is his real job, not filing suits against the president along party lines. He is there to enforce the laws of our state. This is directly from the AG's mission statement:

 

“To represent and defend the interests of the people of the State of Nevada through ethical and independent legal advocacy and education, and to serve as the state's top law enforcement officer.”

 

So, if you're disturbed? Be disturbing to them. If you're upset? Be upsetting to them. If you are not sure what to do? Stop being a bitch and advocate. If you are a protector? Protect the other women who are still at risk because this man continues to walk the street and talk to some people and see if maybe you can change their minds about charging him with rape. 

 

A woman screaming for help should not be met with lawsuits, silence, or surveillance. So I’m asking you: be louder than they are comfortable with. Write. Call. Post. Share. Demand answers. If I’m screaming alone, they’ll keep pretending they can’t hear me. But if enough of us raise our voices, they’ll have no choice but to listen. Let’s make this impossible to ignore. You want to be a protector? Protect women by using your voice.

 

🏛️ Nevada Attorney General Aaron D. Ford

 

🎯 Aaron Ford Campaign (Demand accountability)

 

💙 Nevada State Democratic Party

 

🧑‍⚖️ Clark County District Attorney Steve Wolfson

 

🏢 Nevada Governor Joe Lombardo

 

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